What are we doing wrong?

Commentary

George gets annoyed when he arrives home and sees Susan without make-up. He is always “looking around” to see what is missing in the house because everything has to be perfect, and Susan is “imperfect.” He always has the best solutions, and Susan must consult him about everything. She has sometimes complained to him: “Deep down, I think you get angry because we are different because we do things differently because we think differently. You forget that we are not tin soldiers made in series; each one of us is unique, and that is how we should love each other, with our differences.”

What happens to George can happen to many people. When we think only of ourselves, we demand that things occur and that other people be and act according to our standards. Impatience arises when something does not happen as we had planned or when someone is not how we want them to be or act as we consider they should, we criticize, we get angry, or we can be the kind of people who always give suggestions, or rather orders, to mold others to our liking.

Impatience, quick to anger, disrespect, and aggression, manifests that we do not love well nor esteem others as they are, in their singular worth. We value and “love” them according to the fulfillment of our parameters as useful or defective tools. This view is pure utilitarianism. We are worth it all in the family even when we are stripped of everything – “naked” -. In the family, if love towards the “naked person” is not unconditional, regardless of his or her usefulness, serious problems will arise