A good and pure of heart love

Commentary

The word “chastity” can be perceived negatively as a restriction or repression of human sexuality. Even in the Google browser, it is defined as a “renunciation of all sexual pleasure” without further explanation. What a shortage of ideas!

More than a renunciation, when it comes to falling in love and, later on, regarding conjugal love, it is a government of oneself aimed at directing our desire to give ourselves to our loved one, toward their good, instead of being driven by a desire to covet the other person´s sexual body in order to satisfy oneself. It is about dominating one´s own impulses to love more and better because only those who are masters of themselves can give themselves completely and freely to another person.

Do you want to learn to love seriously? Then, cleanse your heart from the greed and the venereal appropriation of the other, seen as a sexual object, but not as a person to love and respect. It is impossible to love a dirty, greedy, manipulative, arrogant heart with hidden intentions to use, abuse, and discard. Suppose it is clear to you that loving requires transparency of intentions, heartfelt honesty between those who love each other, respect, and consideration. In that case, you will understand without further ado what chastity is. You will give it whatever name you prefer. It is the purity of heart, kindness, and generosity of intentions, which have a self-giving rather than an appropriation nature.

It is not a repression of sexuality but a purification of its selfishness. Learning to govern the egocentric compulsions, which only look at one´s immediate satisfaction, thus being able to see, more deeply and at a greater distance, what is good for the relationship, what is good for the we that we are, and that we must take care of as well