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EspañolIn the history of their marriage, may whoever is free of faults, defects, errors, and sins raise your hand! There is a solution, and it is quite effective. Ask for forgiveness and correct yourself. Do so with a sincere heart. The future will open up again. You still have time!
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“Remind them of the availability of the sacrament of Reconciliation, which allows them to bring their sins and past mistakes, and their relationship itself, before God, and to receive in turn his merciful forgiveness and healing strength.” (The Joy of Love, n.211)
Commentary
If you consider yourself perfect, if you do not admit any failure, if you move like a scorpion when someone complains about your wrong and harmful behaviors, you are in danger; in danger of what? Of being a prideful arrogant, of not bearing to indeed look at yourself, of self-deception, of demanding others be blind, submissive, and foolish. You will love no one but yourself with such behavior, and your sentence will be loneliness.
When one, standing before God, says over and over again “that he has no sin to repent of,” what he is suffering from is that sad loss of the sense of sin of which recent Popes have spoken so much and which, as experience shows, leads to a toxic, cynical attitude towards one´s spouse and children, to whom the proud and narcissistic person tends to shift the blame for everything constantly.
Only God can heal the human spirit from the wounds of sin. Only God can open the door of the most closed heart and enlighten the darkest conscience. How badly we need his forgiveness and mercy! How badly families need it!
Nothing heals family devastation but only sincere repentance, a request for forgiveness, and a committed willingness to change. Give the victims their time, for the stabbing is not the same as healing. The wounded man hesitates before your repentance. Is it true or not? Your loved ones want to believe you. Give them confidence and security. Persevere in doing so; do not waver in the face of their doubts. Love works miracles when the one who has done wrong comes to us truly repentant, contrite for the pain caused, ready to heal wounds. It rekindles, breathes hope, and believes that the home greens and flourishes once again. God Omnipotent will be your “accomplice.” He loves mercy, forgiveness, and reconciliations. It is never too late. There is still time. It is worth it. Better yet, it is worth all your sorrows.
